Are You Safe

Does your partner:

  • Embarrass you with bad names and put-downs?
  • Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
  • Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?
  • Stop you from seeing or talking to friends or family?
  • Take money or your Social Security?  Make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
  • Make all the decisions?
  • Tell you you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
  • Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even denies doing it?
  • Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
  • Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
  • Shove you, slap you or hit you?
  • Force you to drop charges?
  • Threaten to commit suicide?
  • Threaten to harm your parents?
  • Threaten to kill you?

Safety Plan:

No one deserves to be abused.  If things get out of hand, it’s good to have a plan!

Following these safety suggestions is not a guarantee of safety, but could help improve your safety situation:

  • Identify safe areas of the house where there are no weapons and where there are always ways to escape.
  • If possible, have a phone accessible at all times and know the numbers to call for help.  If you need a 911 cell phone, please contact the Victim Services Unit at (386)329-0481 or (386)326-2833.  Don’t be afraid to call the police.
  • Let trusted friends and neighbors know of your situation and develop a plan and visual signal for when you need help.  Teach your children how to get help.  Instruct them not to get involved in the violence between you and your partner.  Plan a code word signal that they should get help or leave the house.
  • Tell your children that violence is never right, even when someone they love is being violent.  Tell them that they are not at fault or cause the violence, and that when anyone is being violent, it is important to keep safe.
  • Call the Lee Conlee House Hotline (386)325-3141 or 1-800-500-1119 to assess your options and get support.